November 26, 2014

3 Ways to Figure Out Who You Don't Want to Date

Do you ever feel as though you're dating the same guy over and over? Well I think that means you and I have been in the same boat. A few months ago my mom told me that I was picking guys that were unavailable. She didn't mean already dating other people - but emotionally not ready to commit to a relationship, too busy and generally confused with what they wanted. Since then I've been paying close attention to each new potential and slightly comparing them to the man in my life that was the most unavailable. I feel as though this can only help me find someone who is a much better fit for me and I'd like to help you do the same.

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Here are 3 tips for figuring out who you don't want to date:

1. Think about who you are attracted to and why 
This is really important! Think about who you like and why, are you into charismatic boys or you like a more introverted fella. Do you like a boy that plans or one that is spontaneous? Knowing what you want will really help you figure out what you don't want.

2. Reflect on the biggest thing that bothered you about your last dating experience 
Write it down and don't be embarrassed about it. But this isn't the time for things like he picked his nose or sneezed really loud. Think about the things that would have effected your relationship, not deal breakers, but how did he act around you, your friends and when you were alone. This guy I dated a few months back would take days (3+) to text me back when we were making plans! It was so bad that it became 3+ days for where we should meet, 3+ days for what time, that I pretty much said no more!

3. Ask your friends and family 
Your friends and family will always tell you the truth. Ask them if they've seen any common patterns between the men you've dated in the past. And if they've heard you complain about a few things that you didn't like about them.

November 19, 2014

5 Ways to Be Busy and still Date

A few months back I was dating this guy who eventually started to get so busy that we were cancelling and rescheduling dates every week. At the time I was pretty irritated because I really liked him and it felt like he wasn't making the time and following up with us getting together. It was tough to figure out if he was busy or that that he didn't know how to say he wasn't interest.  Especially since was getting conflicted comments from my friends and family who were saying "he's not worth your time, get over it tali, even though he's busy he should make time - we always make time for those we like and care about."  So alas we stopped dating because I had enough.

But it got me thinking, is cancelling and rescheduling the new age of dating? Is this the new "hard to get" we are playing? Or is it just that we are all too busy with work and outside events that we are over-committing and not realizing it until we are cancelling and rescheduling. I had a chat with my friend Val about this but on a different note that it seems as though we are bombarded with events to attend all the time, and if we aren't reminded by a personal touch about it; we will be less likely to attend.

So perhaps our over stimulating lives is affecting how we date. As I struggle to balance this, I've put together my top tips for how you and I can align our busy lives so we can work and play in a way that's enjoyable.

1. Limit yourself to 3 max post-work outings per week. 

2. Tuesday,Wednesday and Thursdays are the best date days in my option. At the beginning and the end of the week, I just want to get home.

3. If you really like someone but are too busy make time for them or you will lose them. 

4. If you don't like the person you are dating, just tell them. Give us the luxury of letting us move on. 

5. Don't over think or over analyze anything that your dating guy/gal does during the first 4 months. Seriously, take everything at face value. 

November 18, 2014

Home for the Holidays at

A few weekends ago I attending Boston Blogger's Home for the Holiday's Event at in Back Bay. It was a great entrance into the holiday season, since it had been last November since I made gift tags and listening to holiday music. Since I'm not quite in that point in my life where I'm making my own holiday traditions, it's still a nice to think about a possible friendsgiving and what traditions I'd like to create.
^^ the cutest note book, schedule and blogger directory for the day
^^ gift tags I made out of paint chips. I don't actually have any friends named Amy, Katie or Rach - those were just the shortest names to fit on the card since I used a giant permanent marker to write it.
^^decorating the table with Abby + 4 other bloggers. this was a challenging task but fun! 

Aside from the crafting, holiday table decorating with Abby Larson of Style Me Pretty which I loved and banner making, I found the most interesting part of be at the begining. Christiane Lemieux of Dwell Studios and Heather B. Armstrong of Dooce were our keynote speakers early that morning. I was incredibly inspired by both women, one an entrepreneur at heart - Christiane and the other the pioneer of blogging - Heather. They talked about their experiences with the internet and we got to ask questions at the end. I got a chance to ask about the writers block that's been hindering me for a while which often is "what do I write about here?" Especially since the vast majority of my days is spent commuting. But it's then that I realized that I want to share the majority of what I learn/have learned in my job application process, day-dreaming, dating in Boston, figuring things out in the real world. So that it may be a little bit more easier for you!

Additionally the event contained menu planning with Chef Jeremy Sewall of Island Creek Oyster Bar, a restaurant I have had nothing but good things about. Though I'm not certain I'm an oyster fan, I loved learning how to shuck oysters and how to properly cut a lobster. Jeremy also just released a new cookbook called: The New England Kitchen, that I think will make a great gift this holiday season!

Connect with me on Instagram to see a picture of my goodie bag (well it was a present that we got to pick out from underneath the tree and unwrap at home - it was seriously the cutest idea)!

November 17, 2014

Dating At 24

Please excuse my week hiatus, as I was figuring a few blog things out. But now I'm back with a new and improved topic that I'll be discussing weekly - dating. As I get accustomed to being 24, living at home and dating, I'll tell you that I'm learning a lot about myself and the men in Boston.

So I cannot wait to dive right into this topic and I hope you enjoy reading as much as I enjoy dating and writing about it! Though I want you to know that I am not dating for the sake of blog content. The blogging part comes after these amazing and not so great dates / guys I've been meeting. So it's more about the tips and tricks I've picked up along the way as I navigate this incredibly confusing and hypocritical part of our lives.

My friends and family have taught me crucial tips to surviving as I balled my eyes out because he didn't text me back or that I rolled my eyes when he did. I've been on dating apps and met people organically, regardless I'm not the least bit ashamed of any of it! How we meet people is changing so I'm embracing every bit of it and proving my two cents as I go. I hope you stick around and we can learn from each other too! xo